Not all milestones in a relationship are snapshot worthy. As we spend more and more time together and become more comfortable around one another, there are certain changes that go with the territory. Women no longer sleeping in their make-up (a big no-no) or waking up early to “freshen up” before their man wakes up. We may worry less about shaving our legs as often and a little stubble isn’t such a big deal. We learn how to simply feel comfortable just being ourselves and confident that we will still be loved even when they figure out – psst— we’re not perfect.
This past weekend, CC and I had a pretty big milestone, in my opinion. We took our first vacation together. During which, there were plenty of snapshot worthy moments; 180 of them to be exact. I’m a bit photo obsessed. Going away together for the first time is a good test of any blossoming relationship. If you can stand to be around each other twenty-four hours a day for multiple days in a row, well, that’s a good sign that there may be something there worth holding on to.
The positives to vacationing together? Being able to just focus on each other, without having to worry about anything else. Getting to wake up together every morning and relaxing in bed together for as long as you desire. Dinner in bed. And hotel sex.
And then, there are the parts of going away together that, if you’re like me, you don’t even realize until you’re already there and the awkward situation presents itself. It’s a small room with the bathroom right there. There’s no fan to block out the noise from within. And you have to do number two.
Let’s be real here, everyone poops. In fact, there’s a pretty famous book about it. And there are many couples who eventually blur, or actually lose, all boundaries. While I’m all for being comfortable with one another, I believe in keeping a little mystery in a relationship to keep things from going stale. And to me, an important place to keep some mystery is the bathroom. Obviously, I know he poops and he knows I poop. After all, everyone poops, right? But I don’t want to listen to each other do it. I think that’s a pretty normal way to feel.
While our lodge for the extended weekend was “green” friendly, we certainly were not. After trying every switch in the bathroom only to discover that there is no fan, we got creative. We ran the shower every time we had to use the bathroom. I ran it every time I even did number one, this way, he wouldn’t know the difference. And we managed to keep a little bit of mystery, and dignity, in our relationship. And laughter.
It turned out to be an amazing trip worthy of every actual snapshot as well as the many mental ones, the moments I have tried to engrave into my memory and never forget. And I now know that spending three and a half straight days together only makes us want to be around each other even more. I also learned that if we move in together somewhere down the line, we definitely need a bathroom that isn’t in the bedroom. And it will have a fan. A loud one.
(I have no lyrics for today’s post. And if you know of any lyrics about poop, well, you should probably not admit that to anyone) 🙂 But I will share some pics from our amazing weekend in the mountains! xoxo