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We all have our fetishes, from role-playing to feet to a little light spanking to a little bit more serious spanking. Most of us have seen the Sex and the City episode where Carrie’s boyfriend likes to be “peed on” , in Carrie’s ever so eloquent words. Sex is a natural and undoubtedly very fun part of a relationship and it’s also usually considered very healthy. So who decides what is and isn’t “normal” or “healthy” and when is the right time in a relationship to let your freak flag fly?
Saying our bedroom fantasies out loud to someone new for the first time can be terrifying. If we all have these secret desires, why is that? Why are we so embarrassed to put ours out there? And for those of you who are wrinkling up your noses in disgust, denying that you have any skeletons in your sexual closet, you’re not fooling anyone. Of all of the businesses I’ve seen closing down and boarding up their shops due to the struggling economy, I haven’t seen one Adult Store close its doors yet. And websites like Adam and Eve and the Hustler Store continue to flourish. So why is it all so hush-hush?
Jenni aka JWOWW from the Jersey Shore went all out for her anniversary with her boo, Roger, this past season. We all watched her have a blast in the Adult Store, including buying a clone the…Roger kit. How many of us watched that episode rolling our eyes and silently calling her a slut? Or laughing along with the happy couple and wishing that we had the courage to do the same thing? Maybe we even yelled out at our TV’s, “hey I have that!” What’s so wrong with having a little fun when it comes to sex? Studies show that spicing it up in the bedroom can be what helps make monogamy work. Isn’t it our duty then to do everything we can to make our relationships last? Bust out those handcuffs you hide in the back of your nightstand drawer, put on something a little sexy tonight, particularly if it’s something that can be licked off. Show up at his door in a long coat with nothing underneath but some lace and high heels. And don’t be ashamed of wanting to have a little fun.
Sure, there are some fetishes that are more common than others, or maybe we just think so because things like wanting to be urinated on, well, we just don’t hear anyone really talk about that. But it must be out there in enough numbers to make it a successful genre in the adult film industry so who knows? Maybe the timing for certain fetishes to come out, so to speak, is different. We just need to understand and accept that what we’re into, our partners might not be and that’s okay. Just like we want to be respected despite our naughty desires, we have to respect if the other person feels a little uncomfortable and says “You want me to stick my finger where???” Different strokes for different folks, right?
No matter what the timeline, we all need to be willing to let our freak flags fly high and proud. I think we’ll often be pleasantly surprised by the reactions of our significant others. And if you’ve always had an urge to spice things up a little but aren’t really sure where to start, maybe Glamour can help you out with 10 Types of Sex to Try at Least Once. So go on, have some fun (but always be safe!)
“Then I wanna, you make it so good I don’t wanna leave But I gotta, know what-what’s your fantasy?” What’s Your Fantasy ~ Ludacris