It’s the oldest story in the world: Girl meets boy. Boy and girl become great friends. Boy and girl sleep together and continue to do so many, many times over the next several years. It was great sex, can you blame them? A decade goes by. Girl, let’s call her Jane, finally admits to boy that it has never been just about sex and that she has been in love with him since the very first time she laid eyes on him. Boy, let’s call him Dick, tells girl he feels the same. Jane cries, sees her whole future laid out in front of her: the house, the kids, Sunday dinners. Jane begins mentally packing her life into pretty pink boxes to move the three hours to where Dick lives and everything she has ever wanted is waiting. But wait! Dick tells Jane they live too far apart and that he has started seeing someone local. Now, you see why we call him Dick.
What was the point of him telling Jane about his feelings if he was just going to turn around and say ‘too bad, so sad’ and not even try? So what that he started seeing someone local? That may sound harsh but ten years is a long time to hold on to feelings for someone and, maybe its just me, but shouldn’t that count for something? Why waste another ten years? By that time, he’ll be going bald and her eggs will be shriveling up. And now? Now there’s the dreaded awkwardness. Dick stopped writing back to Jane’s texts. Jane’s been visiting friends near where Dick lives and, true to his name, Dick hasn’t set aside time to have as little as a cup of coffee with Jane; this woman who has meant so much to him for so long and he’s just going to let her get away. Again.
So, what is Jane to think? How much could Dick really care if he would throw away not only the chance at happiness ever after but her friendship as well? A friendship that was always strong even through the hardest of times. And the thing is, Jane started to fight for him. But when women make the “grand gesture” they’re crazy, right? It wouldn’t be too much of a stretch to say that he has changed his phone number at this point and that’s why he’s stopped writing back. So, now what? Does she sit back and wait to see if he’ll come around? Rent a karaoke machine and drive the three hours to sing Endless Love outside his house? Or does she give up? What if he never decides to listen to his heart? Should she be alone forever because she’s waiting for someone who is never going to get it together? Never have the children she so desperately wants? Or someone to keep her warm at night? But, if she does move on and allow herself the opportunity to have those things with someone else, is she settling? Do we sometimes have to choose to settle or be alone forever?
Knowing that there is someone out there who just gets us so completely and loves us for all of our little quirks, it seems devastating to think that a trivial thing like distance could stand in the way of love. They always say that timing is everything but now we have to worry about location, too? Seems to me that there will always be challenges in the world and, when you find someone you can just breathe with at the end of the day, well, that’s worth overcoming them all. It also seems to me that no matter how much love there is, if someone isn’t willing to fight for you, there is someone better out there who will. And that’s the one thing we should never settle for doing without.
“But I never told you What I should have said No I never told you I just held it in And now I miss everything about you Can’t believe that I still want you After all the things we’ve been through I miss everything about you Without you” I Never Told You ~ Colbie Caillat